Recently I posted tips on Befriending in Facebook & elsewhere, but today I had a conversation that prompted me to think about the psychology behind being shy of social networking. So I want to come at it from a different direction & ponder why people feel uncomfortable with social networking. These ideas are my own & not based on any statistics.
- Our Culture – Does it tend to make us less willing to be transparent & open with strangers? Do people in European countries & other cultures have an easier time?
- Trust – Are we brought up to not talk to strangers? Does that affect how we feel about interacting?
- Fear – This can be of many things. Some that I can think of are rejection, embarrassing oneself, not being knowledgeable enough, not being accepted, etc My fear is different, but I push it back & carry on hoping that no one will decide to take advantage of my being so open & trusting.
- No time or desire – Then why have you read this far? *grin* Seriously though, if you think that networking is important for whatever reason, then it will take time. Initially, it takes a conscious effort but as you get used to it & get addicted, then it pays off & the relationships can grow.
My suggestion is that as hard as it is, put yourself out there as I suggested in my tips. As you have success, you’ll gain self-confidence & realize the value in meeting strangers. After awhile it will become easier & not cause you stress. (It’s supposed to be fun! And maybe that’s why I appreciate Facebook – it offers a glimpse of the person & who they are.) Each weekend 5-10 people connect with me & I initiate connections with others.
What do you feel are roadblocks for you in this area? and take some time to ask yourself why they bother you?